I wonder what drives modern couples to wake up at wee hours, just to go through the Chinese customary wedding. After being a "sister" at three weddings, I must say that I don't find the entire process worthwhile. Does anyone really enjoy the process? I really can't tell. I only know that the couple and their families are usually beat at the end of the day. Looks rather like a graduation ceremony, though the fresh grads are usually more hyper due to better mobility in lighter clothing. Couples usually look stuck stiff in all the layers they wear for their wedding day.
It must be the belief that all these ceremonies will bring happiness to the couple. Perhaps so, since there are no more regrets. No more of the "you didn't even give me a proper wedding" arguments. All family members, old and young alike, approve of the matrimony. It's done, official, precious, because everyone put in effort to make it come together.
Perhaps I'm just jaded by the many big meetings at work that are conducted with extreme care at all steps, which kind of resonates with what happens at a Chinese wedding. The solemnisation vows were, on the other hand, more meaningful. I am always touched by the verses spoken, because if taken seriously, they mean a lifetime of responsibilities and commitment. That is a scary thought, especially when having second thoughts. Must take a great deal of determination to say them.
When it's my turn, I should have to make it clear to my partner that any traditional ceremonies I go through are for his sake, not my own. I really don't care for all that. I'm just game to put on a nice gown and light makeup, and sit down for a good drink and lunch with close family and friends at a comfortable hangout.
Alright, easier said than done, on all counts. Much more convenient to follow the crowd and the usual practices, like a tour package. If you want it your way, you've got to sweat it.